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[Real Life] Seriously, eHarmony is a Waste of Money

So this is a real life rant.  I know I don’t post very often, but I really wanted to share this.

After 9 months on eHarmony, and getting past the initial stuff once, I think I can say it was a complete waste of money.

Once I was on the pay as you go schedule, I would get a lot of nothing during most of the month, followed by a large number of matches right as my account came up for renewal.

That’s how they get you.  You get distracted with 5 profiles to check through and suddenly you forget to cancel.

One or two might start sending you messages.  These will stop a day or two after you have to pay for the service.

When I was on a multi-month subscription, the same thing happened – lots of nothing for weeks, maybe 1 or 2 people, then right as renewal hit, bam, lots of matches.

Now my settings were not terrible.  I did have a few things that I wanted – no one morbidly obese was one.  Most people are just not honest with themselves.  I’ve seen some of the fattest people put down as one thing they are good at “staying in shape”.

I was also somewhat picky as I wanted people who had never been married before and no kids.  One person listed as something they were most happy about as “my divorce”.

In 9 months, no one returned my hellos.  I had 4 people send a request for a photo when I clearly had 4 posted.

I’m sure everyone knows one person who had success on eHarmony, which is probably how they keep going.  I too know 1 person.  1, and only 1.  Of the people I talk to who have tried eHarmony, we are about 1 out of 25.  Seriously, 4% success rate.

In my opinion, I should have just gone to a bar and ordered a couple drinks every week.  It would have been cheaper and I would have at least enjoyed the money.

In short, 225 matches.  Lost track of how many I sent initial questions/received them from, 3 answered those questions, 1 made it to open communication.

Waste

Of

Money

-pyra

And We’re Back(ish) (maybe)

Well, I’m having trouble sleeping and decided to make this post.

After my last post about being off for a month, temptation got the best of me and I signed up for a 14-day trial.

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I can admit that there have been many changes since I last really paid attention, and most of them have been for the better.  In only a few days I’m already level 14 and have my subjob items.  My gear is still total crap, as it took just about all of the money I had managed to accumulate (a vast sum of 7K) to buy the basic armor.  Oh and I accidentally found a check box in the config which will disable your sound.  And then I somehow unchecked this box.

I’m playing with some people who I got to know from WoW.  I have to admit, this is the first time in a while I’ve really said that I need to go reactivate Pyra now.

At the same time, its quite sad that my friend from WoW (who is a THF in FFXI) far outgears my own THF, even though he had stopped playing a year or so before I did.  They are quite a good group of people.  Maybe I can convince them to move to Caitsith.

It is, however, disappointing that the friend to whom I loaned my WHM account to has decided to sell some of my old items and keep the money.  The account was loaned so he could PL himself and run a salvage group with 1 less person.  He was also free to use the crafting skills or use the character to farm with as much as he wanted.  I don’t even mind that he made money in the server transfer (our original deal was that he could transfer the account to his server, but would pay to transfer it to a server of my choosing when I took the account back).  But not to sell the items and keep the money, at least not yet.  Especially when he asked me if he could sell it and I said ‘no’.  At least he didn’t unsign my gear.

It really was my fault.  I knew how he is and I let him use the account anyway.  Oh well, if all I lose out of this is a few items I wasn’t really using even when I still played, I’m doing well, and in reality, all I know for sure that he sold was my Uggalepih Pendant (which is worth 700K on Diabolos and only 480K on Caitsith) and some misc crafting materials that I wasn’t able to sell.

In Light of Recent Events, No More Politics Here — After This Post

Due to what is sure to offend far too many people, I’ve decided not to continue the Pyra vs Syd ‘election’.

For anyone curious, here is how it would have played out.  Most people will be offended.  Don’t read on if you are easily offended.  If you do read on, don’t complain to me :).  The whole thing was basically designed to poke fun of the political process, and also (here’s the important part) to offend everyone.

In an effort to keep this from an all out debate in my comments, I will turn them off if they get out of hand.

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A Look at the Candidates: Sydonia

Sydonia is a fairly new resident of Silvermoon City, and is running for president.

Sydonia is a relative newcomer to the life of politics, a spell caster, who has lived on Crushridge for her entire life.

Sydonia went, in a matter of weeks, from a newbie to an officer of her guild.

For a candidate who has not been corrupted by years of visits from lobbyists and others who want special favors, Sydonia is the candidate for you.

This message brought to you by Sydonia for President. My name is Sydonia and I approve this message.

A Look at the Candidates: Pyra

Pyra is a long time resident of Windurst, and is running for president.

Pyra is a very experienced melee, originally from the Diabolos server, who now resides on the Caitsith server.

Pyra has run many successful linkshells, and when not a leader, has excelled as a member who can be counted on when needed for any task.

For a candidate with strong leadership skills and a long history of success, Pyra is your candidate for president.

This message brought to you by Pyra for President. My name is Pyra and I approve this message.

I Really Laughed At this one

Well that just sucks (real life post)

I heard today that LeRoi Moore of the Dave Matthews Band died this week. (link http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080820/ap_on_en_mu/obit_leroi_moore )

I saw the band play in 1998 twice. Once in the now Wachovia Center in Philly, and once at the now Tweeter Center in Camden, NJ. For the Camden concert, I and two of my friend from High School were in the 4th row, right in front of the violinist.

Throughout High School, and even into college, I was into jazz music. In High School, I played the alto and tenor saxophone. I even did marching band (yes I know, I’m a nerd) with a tenor sax, until the weight just started to hurt my back by too much and I had to use something lighter (and switched to clarinet for half of the time).

I can safely say that LeRoi was one of my heroes of the time. He showed us what you could do with a woodwind, and that the sax and flute had a place in popular music.

I will miss him. He was my favorite member of what was my favorite band throughout High School and much of College.

I’m Sitting Here on my Couch, Watching the Time-Delayed Olympic Open Ceremony

I saw pictures from the opening ceremony about 8 hours ago at work. The time-delay made it start at 20:08 EDT, or 8:08pm Eastern Daylight Savings time.

I’m watching the Parade of Nations, something I usually find far too boring to care about. My parents always turned it off growing up. And truthfully, I didn’t plan on even watching it at first. But then I was curious.

China is not known as a an open place. But this is so fascinating to watch, the 5000 year old culture opening up.

However, the most important thing (in my mind) is this: of the thousands of people who have walked by so far, probably 90% of them could be someone from around the corner. It is times like this that you realize that people around the world are not really all that different from you and I. For one brief moment, me sitting on my couch in Virginia, and everyone all over the world, are connected, watching the same thing at the same time (or close to the same time). We really are the same.

During one of the breaks, a campaign add for both McCain and Obama come on. It brings me back to reality for a minute. While other channels have re-runs on so as not to really compete and just let the ceremony be, politicians are still arguing.

I enjoy the contrast, in one minute, one of the great uniting events (quite possibly a huge turning point for China and how it relates to the world), the next, politicians dividing us again.

All combined, it just shows that we could probably all get along, if it wasn’t for politicians constantly convincing us that we can’t get along. Perhaps it will be our generation, that can spread information faster than ever, that finally breaks down some of those barriers. Or at the very least, leads the way towards making the world a bit smaller, and a lot better.

In a way, FFXI is an interesting uniter as well. We play with people from all over the nation, and the world. We talk with people from all sorts of ethnic, religious, national, financial, regional backgrounds who we would probably never otherwise know. I’ve met some of the most amazing people, a galka SMN from Japan who spoke broken English (and in who’s shell we all spoke a modified version of English with Japanese grammar structure to communicate), to a members of every branch of the US military, and a French-Canadian who barely spoke any English (although who’s English improved significantly over the years we all knew each other). There are players from all over the English speaking world, Australia, New Zealand, Canada, England, Ireland, and elsewhere. And of course, from across the US. An art student in Texas, a state trooper in Michigan, stay at home moms from various states, a young married couple from Texas, people who work in the Vegas casinos, and people who just live near Vegas.

Perhaps the most fascinating person I ever met was a student from Bahrain. Someone I know for a fact, I would never have known if it wasn’t for FFXI. Some of my talks with her have been the most interesting. She was also the one who made the comment first “we really are not that different”.

So think about it. People around the world are not that different from each other. Placed together, we generally get along, even if we don’t agree with each other about everything, we can almost always be friends.

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Almost 2 years ago, my real life friend Ayslain, was banned from FFXI. Technically it was early September 2006, but they got their first temp ban in August 2006, and are coming to visit me this weekend, so its an appropriate time for this.

To say this ban was fair and deserved would be an understatement.

Yep! The title says it all. Today i won a free trip (all expenses paid) to one Mordion Gaol! And let me tell you, the rumors of the land are grosely underexaggerated! There are ferris wheels there, bumper cars, hanging swings, the scrambler, tilt a whirl, the works all there! I had an excellent time until they forced me to logout! 🙂

So I was officially banned today until “midnight 8/9/06″… though i’m not exactly sure what that means. Does it mean 11:59pm on tuesday, or 11:59pm on Wednesday? What day do we consider midnight to be in the real world?

GM Luminious was my GM… and basically he seemed to only speak to me in a pre-determined statement setup by SE a while ago. Ironically, i could not take a screenshot of the log as I was in Gaol without windower loaded (when i realized i was zoning into Gaol randomly i quickly closed my FFXI thinking i could somehow evade them), but the reason for my banning was for the use of “illegal third party applications”. The terminology is very vague, so i’m not sure exactly how they fingered me in particular. The GM did not answer any of my questions (including the simple question of midnight EST?). The funny thing is, they are VERY CLEAR to you that you are not getting perma-banned throughout the whole process. I guess SE really doesn’t want to lose customers!

The GM character models themselves (which i’m sure everyone has seen at some point in screenshots) are pretty ugly (they are the executioner style where you can’t see their faces)… but one thing that screenshots don’t do ‘justice’ to them is that GMs have a weird “heat” effect that makes their character slightly blurry. It’s kind of like when you look down the road, or off of the hood of your car, on a really hot day and you can kind of see heat waves flowing up into the air. I don’t really see why they have that effect, as it just makes it annoying to look at them.

Anyway, i’ll see you all again on tuesday… wednesday… thursday… whatever day they meant for this to end! 🙂

And then the followup to the August 2006 temp-ban

First off, my guess is i was banned specifically for POS hacking while mining… which is probably the dumbest thing you can ever do.

See, i’ve used POS before… enough that i have even gotten that “You cannot enter the next zone” message 10,000 times b/c if you get to a zoneline earlier than physically possible you are not allowed to actually zone. You just get that weird message. GMs have never been auto-called on me b/c of that message… so i guess i assumed there wasn’t any auto-detection in place for POS at all.

I’m still not 100% sure how i got caught though. My guess is if you arrive at (and mine) points “too soon” the game will auto-call GM on you. But, i was also dragging mining points away from all of the mobs to safer areas to mine them… so they could’ve detected that my current x,y,z was not close enough to the mining point’s x,y,z to legitimately mine it.

All this being said… my first offense was actually a pretty big one (using hacks to make profit) and i STILL only got 3 day suspension. I am guessing all of this nonsense about windower and getting banned for using it (using /console instead of the console button) is probably just the excuse people cooked up to their friends when they got banned for something else and thus the rumors started. There is a screenshot somewhere online right after that last update on the 22nd of someone admitting to a GM that they had windower and that’s why they couldn’t use the warp taru and the GM didn’t care at all. Even if you shouted in cities that you used it i’m guessing they’d ban you for ‘spamming’ faster than banning you for windower. 🙂

My advice to you… hack away! Just don’t use it for profit, or they’ll detect you! 🙂

A month later, they were banned for flee hacking and pos hacking to complete the ninja AF quests faster.

About a year after this all came out, we finally got the list of things they had done:

Fish Botting
Flee Hacking (appearantly if you use flee hacking with the sky statue bind move you look like you are running, but not moving, on other’s screens). Was also used for dynamis pulls.
POS Hacking (for mining and also in sky to check if other NMs were up)
Moving targets to evade client side checks. Many green targetable objects handle proximity checks clientside, such as mining points. If you use a 3rd party tool, you can ‘pull’ the target to a safer spot.
Radar apps
An app which would leave a monster name on your screen if it ever appeared on your screen (useful for seeing if NMs came by while you were AFK).
Buying gil online. Although relatively speaking this was a small offense.

So, they are coming for a week long visit starting tomorrow. We’ll probably play some Warhammer as we’re both in the beta, maybe some WoW too. Lots of console games, although doubtful it will be mario kart. One of the two of us is way too good at all things mario kart related to the point where they are just frustrating to play against. And that person isn’t me.

I’ll also be on-and-off FF all week. Maybe I’ll have both of me on, but for a change, won’t actually be dual boxing. My friend is fairly experienced as a thf, blm, and whm. And still owes me 200K and a set of HQ fishing gear that someone was borrowing when they got banned… =P

-pyra

I’m not much of a fan of Twitter

But sometimes, small little quips about life are needed.

“People are nicest to random strangers when they want their parking spot”

Discuss.